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by itself is just a bunch or knot of strong spasms a bit like
cramps, which may or may not feel very good, and which prevent
much sexual fun for a while afterwards (which means hours or
days for older males). It offers not much pleasure for (sometimes,
especially in older males) considerable effort.
Orgasm, on the
other hand, is pure sensation of mind and body in union (for
once), a series of layers of gentle spasms and delicious feelings
tingling all over the body - feelings so intense they make you
want to actually swim inside your own body, while pumping harder
and harder until and while you ejaculate. But if you can avoid
the "harder-and-harder" trap, and just enjoy and prolong
the feelings as they are, your body can get used to them, can
recognize and accept even more intense feelings, and can reflexively
hover in the magic and to most people restricted zone where
orgasm has started but ejaculation has not.
When I first started
learning Advanced Masturbation, I had to be in a very quiet,
dark place, such as in bed by myself in a darkened room. But
the more I progressed, the faster I could reach a special level
of consciousness, which seems to require the resurrection of
an almost-unused part of the brain - a part that we are in fact
taught to suppress. Here is how I began:
First of all,
I can excite myself sexually simply by sniffing my armpits.
I am not a follower of the false god Hygenie. The smell of my
unwashed cock is even more of a turn-on, especially if there
is nice fresh cheese in it to eat. Cock-cheese is not a disease,
but a natural product - which, I grant you, can be a little
irritating when it starts to break down, so it is best eaten
the first or second day.
Lying in the dark,
I slowly bring my hands up to my chest and towards my nipples.
I begin to massage their haloes in a circular motion with my
fingertip. Then I touch each one ever so lightly I'll start
to ooze, if I haven't oozed earlier.
I then begin to
pleasure my cock and balls, now massaging my nipples with one
hand, close to the point of orgasm, stopping at the crucial
moment, as described below, by closing off my urethral opening,
just as I would should I want to stop pissing midstream. This
is done by tensing the Pubococcygeus and Bulbospongiosus muscles
between my legs.
pubococcygeus muscle is in the perineum (between the scrotum
and the anus), is involved in penile erection and ejaculation.
I have exercised it over the years by flexing and relaxing it
at will. When exercising it try not to contract any other muscles.
I find that it's sometimes easier to do this sitting down.
Most 'muliti-orgasmic man' books and Taoist sex books go more
in depth about pubococcygean exercises and techniques. The muscle
is the chic little red waistcoat (vest) shown below.
The bulbospongiosus is part of the Levator ani group
in the anatomical illustration,
and is connected to the perineal and pudendal nerves.
This halts my ejaculation - but a purely nerve-based climax
continues. My penis contracts inside, convulsing as it would
were I ejaculating, but nothing is dispelled. At this moment,
I resume masturbating, squeezing the head of my penis -thus
experiencing the most incredible "dry" orgasm, lasting
many times longer, and of a far greater sensitivity, than if
I were experiencing a normal ejaculation at the same moment.
After a bit, my
cock starts to spasm, giving me amazing intense feelings from
the top of my head right to my feet. But then I stop - for just
a moment, a second, still holding on - and let my body relax,
make my cock relax but at the same time seem to expand upward.
Then I resume touching, gently, reaching the point of no return
in another stroke or two... then stop again. My cock is twitching
involuntarily now, it feels like semen has filled its underside
(this is a feeling induced by the Bulbospongiosus. Even the
gentlest touch would send me over the edge, but I stroke anyway,
a feather-touch, and yet the ejaculation doesn't happen, barely.
Somehow, over a few years of this, my body has learned to accept
this delicious intensity without exploding.
I'm in the everlasting-foreplay
groove now, as intense orgasmic feelings course through my whole
body. I feel my chest, biceps, stomach, back, thighs, all of
them glowing with the pleasure radiating from my cock. The manipulation
is now very gentle, slow and continuous, my breathing deep and
slow and even, my mind quiet and focussed only on my body, the
air, the bed, the sublime tension and yearning and gratification
all together. The delicious feelings fill my whole awareness,
with no dead space to think in, no other thoughts (not even
fantasies!). I am consumed by the timeless pleasure of sheer
feeling - and feeling good and solid beneath that electro-cosmic
joy. I lose track of time, not knowing how long I've been going.
Maybe after awhile
- maybe fifteen, twenty minutes - my mind will start to wander,
and I'll realise I'm no longer on the razor-edge of ejaculation.
So I take my hand off for a few seconds, take a few deep breaths,
and start again. I relax all my muscles, relax my balls and
cock, accept their radiant tension, feel my body, my chest...
no more extraneous thoughts...
So I continue.
But there are no more words to describe it, just the same and
similar sensations returning, but with such immediacy and pleasure
that boredom never comes, only an enveloping nowness of spasming
cock and moist orgasmic energy spreading though my belly out
onto my skin: Forevergasm!
men fantasise about swallowing their own semen, but once you've
ejaculated, the motivation disappears.
The solution is simple: swallow it before you shoot ! After
as much pleasure as I have time and inclination for, I lean
back on my shoulders with my legs in the air, then I bring myself
really close to orgasm a number of times, each time stopping
to see how close I am...sooner or later you will come "too
close" and ejaculate a little (or a lot!). BUT...stop right
there, enjoy the taste and excitement of ejaculating into your
own mouth - and adding whatever fantasy makes it even better.
You can then continue enjoying all the inherent delights of
your body and your brain until, eventually, you ejaculate -
or stop until the next session.
The next session
could well be a huge step forward: orgasm without even touching
your cock. You can drift like a mist of pleasure into a new
kind of awareness, hypnotic, psychopompic, dao-tantric.
I usually enter it
at night in bed, naked in a tent on a summer evening, or in front
of a winter fire, and I begin by making sure I'm perfectly comfortable,
not too hot or cold or distracted in any way. Lying nude with
my arms at my sides, I close my eyes, let all of my muscles relax,
and I try to "see" just a total blank; sometimes interesting
patterns will appear and I let myself go as close as possible
into a kind of self-hypnotic state or trance. (For this, magic
mushrooms will be a helper for some.)
I then begin focusing
all of my thoughts and energy on my cock (not so easy with magic
mushrooms), and it will usually get a little tingling sensation
at this point - but will not necessarily be hard: perhaps semi-hard.
I visualize that all of my senses are inside my penis, and I
want to experience with my whole body exactly how it feels and
how it wants to feel. I do not do anything to force my dick
to feel a certain way, or the way I think it should react. I
don't necessarily have to twitch it or try to make it throb
or pulse (it's going to do that later on its own with no help
from me), and I don't contract my anal muscles intentionally
- for that also happens naturally.
Now I let my penis
take total charge. Actually, I have mentally programmed my mind
to control what goes on with my dick and to do what is necessary
to make me have orgasms without further conscious effort on
my part. I let Nature take its course. I remain passive by simply
lying on my back (or side) and savouring every moment of the
show that my cock is starting to put on for 'our' enjoyment
- for in a way we are each other's audience.
Within a few minutes
my bewitched penis will begin to swell somewhat, but it is not
necessary at this early stage for it to get hard, even though
the sensations felt inside my dick and the surrounding areas
can be unbelievably intense at this time. In the next phase,
I begin to feel that certain parts of it want attention and
are receiving it, as if these parts were being licked or sucked
at exactly the most sensitive spots, exactly as I would do it
if I could get my mouth down there on it myself, or to tell
another guy how to do it for me. These sensations become stronger
and stronger in a rhythmic way with each breath.
I continue to
lie still and cannot keep myself from sighing with the pleasure
this is giving me. It's like being in another world, another
universe, and I want it to go on forever. The sensations will
later become even more intense and soon become orgasmic, wave
after wave of orgasms of the most unbelievable intensity, in
slow-motion, without ejaculation, lasting for many minutes.
The orgasms are dry, as I do not ejaculate at this point, but
the ecstasy is almost unbearable because they last so long and
occur repeatedly many times.
Even if I never
shot another load of cum again without jacking off or getting
sucked, it would be wonderful just as it is. But I knew from
having had the spontaneous orgasms that eventually I should
be able to cum this way if I found the right mental stimulus,
so I have persisted toward this goal, enjoying every failure
along the way because the dry orgasms of the magnitude I have
been having are indescribably satisfying in and of themselves.
But there is more
to come (so to speak). Some time ago, I had an orgasm with the
strongest and longest-lasting gushes of cum ever, and of the
most mind-blowing dimensions, purely through mental concentration
- true hands-off ejaculation. I had just become awake, and as
usual my member was nicely enlarged if not rock hard at that
point. I reached down and squeezed its hardening heat, and he
(or she ?) responded by giving a little throb. Then I tucked
it and my balls between my legs just a little and simply enjoyed
the feeling. I was still half-asleep and hadn't opened my eyes
yet, and just lay there peacefully, frequently lapsing back
into that eerie in-between hypnopompic state of being half awake,
In a minute or
so I could sense that the blood was rushing from somewhere around
my navel down into my dick and pelvic area, and within seconds
I began to get that tingling sensation in my cock signalling
that something special was about to happen. I instinctively
yielded every part of my mind and body to the rapidly developing
surge of pleasure and then entered another sexual level in which
there was nothing in the universe except my mind and my dick,
both of which were now ready to take charge over any remaining
conscious thoughts I might have had, except those intent on
helping me shoot. At this point all I had to do was to let it
happen, without any kind of forcing.
So, I just lay
there while my cock tensed up and the muscles around the 'root'
began contracting ever so slightly. Soon I was feeling strong
waves of orgasmic sensations, as before, with the muscles around
the root of my dick contracting very gently all on their own,
without any conscious effort on my part. I just lay back and
quietly let out moans of pleasure every 5 seconds or so - that
is how often the orgasms were coming - just about with each
breath. I relaxed as completely as possible, stretching my arms
out and letting them melt into the bed, all the while the orgasms
were coming and I wanted them to last forever.
orgasmic contractions became faster and stronger, but I was
still lying comfortably on my back, eyes shut, and not doing
anything but experiencing what my dick had been programmed to
do all along, with no help from me at this point. I just experienced
the feelings. By now I was deeply in my selfsex 'trance' - and
probably had been for quite a while - eyes still closed and
eyeballs pointing upwards, my mind and body quietly but intensely
in a state of ecstasy. After many minutes and several cycles
of these incredible dry orgasms, and at a certain critical point
that I had never intentionally crossed before without physical
stimulation, I could feel in my dick and the surrounding muscles,
in my drawn up balls, all the way down into my prostate and
the ejaculatory mechanism, that I had entered the one-way road
to squirting. No matter what I did now, I was going to shoot
My meatus started
to swell as it always does when one approaches the point of
ejaculation, but it did so very gradually now. The muscles around
the 'root' were contracting with stronger force, and my spine
was arching almost imperceptibly with each contraction. I was
breathing slightly faster than normal, but my body wasn't getting
so tense and tightly drawn up the way it does when I'm pumping
my cock hard and fast, as will happen in those types of wank-essions,
or when I'm being sucked. Now, it was a gradual build-up to
the inevitable climax, and my whole body was savouring the magic
of the sensations, which kept coming with greater frequency.
This was going to be a triple-intensity orgasm in slow-motion,
and instead of having to perform all of the physical actions
required for a regular orgasm, I could just lie back and enjoy
my mind making love to my dick, or maybe it was the other way
around. But I knew it would almost be like when you kick back
and get a blow job, where the only thing you have to do is to
supply the dick and let the guy sucking it do his thing, for
his enjoyment as well as yours. Here, I was taking on both roles
and doing both, to myself, with myself, and for myself. I was
'riding the tiger' of sexual and sensual self-knowledge, and
of the divisible personality.
When I started
on this sensual-spiritual journey, I used marijuana as a helper.
For me it is an out-and-out aphrodisiac, and allows me to concentrate
more on bodily feelings than on my thoughts about the feelings
- for I am a binge-thinker. Cannabis and certain other 'entheogens'
also seem to broaden the threshold between what you might call
'the orgasm emissions phase' and the ejaculatory reflex.
If you are lucky,
you won't need to use disinhibitors.
Guide to the Physiology of the Male Ejaculatory Orgasm.
books describe the event in stages involving sexual
organ vasocongestion, rising to the plateau stage, then
the orgasm which consists of internal sexual organ emissions
and the ejaculation reflex response. Actually, events
beyond the plateau phase can be broken into many additional
stages. My first sensations come from my testes, which
draw up into my body. When men first sense the arrival
of their orgasm, those feelings emanate from the epididymis
and the spermatic cords which contract and spasm to
move sperm up the ductus (vas) deferens into the ampullary
gland or ampulla, the triangular organ, point facing
downward, that lies just above the prostate. The ampulla
filling with sperm accentuates the pleasure of sexual
stimulation. Continued penile stimulation soon triggers
a hardening of the seminal vesicles which discharge
fluid into the ampulla then into the ejaculatory ducts.
Sufficient pressure quickly builds in the ejaculatory
ducts to trigger a hardening of the prostate, which
discharges directly into the urethra. Ejaculation is
inevitable once the prostate hardens. Finally, the valves
at the ends of the ejaculatory ducts open simultaneously
with the initiation of the ejaculation reflex. Semen
discharged from the penis comes in a distinct sequence
of partially mixed emissions: 1.prostatic fluid (10%);
2. sperm (5%) and ampullary gland fluid (10%); 3. seminal
fluid (70%) and again; 4. prostatic fluid (5%).
there are valves at the ends of the ejaculatory ducts
and that fluids pressure triggers the ejaculation reflex.
I evidently can reach orgasm and discharge sperm, ampullary
gland, and seminal vesicle fluid into the ejaculatory
ducts without triggering ejaculation or the opening
of the valves at the end of the seminal ducts.
trained myself to lock the ejaculatory duct-valves,
through muscle-relaxation (as described above) even
as the seminal vesicles proceed to harden and discharge,
and pressure from ampullary gland fluid, sperm and seminal
fluid builds up behind the duct valves. Abandoning stimulation
to the penis halts the pressure which triggers ejaculation
and exercise, I sense exactly how much more pressure
can build before crossing the threshold to ejaculatory
inevitability. My orgasms are stronger and ultimately
continuous without triggering ejaculation. My seminal
vesicles harden right after I have nearly squirted;
hence they are almost constantly hard - and discharging.
My prostate swells without hardening, currently to about
just half as much during a full ejaculatory orgasm.
Every approach to ejaculation increases the amount of
fluid held in the ampulla, with an associated increase
in pleasure and passion of sexual readiness.
after ceasing stimulation I can contract my Bulbospongiosus
muscle and thereby press on my prostate and feel
the fluids being pushed back up into the ampulla and
seminal vesicles. This feeling of fluid movement and
fullness is very pleasurable. I can stop masturbating,
and hours or days later still feel the delicious build-up
of fluids within. My testes also feel full and wonderfully
can also make positive intervention by placing a middle
finger into my rectum. In this way the hardening of
the seminal vesicles and prostate can be palpated digitally.
Softly massaging the prostate and ampulla when they
are gorged from orgasmic filling is intensely pleasurable.
TOWARD SEXUAL ENLIGHTENMENT
(so much foreplay, then more foreplay, and finally,
Strengthen your sexual organ muscles.
Increase your mental control over orgasms.
Learn to measure the approach of your orgasm.
Feel the emissions phase as separate from the
ejaculatory phase of an orgasm.
Practise the Stop-Go technique.
When you are ready to orgasm lubricate your middle
finger and stick it in your anus! Feel around your prostate
(walnut sized organ one inch past your anus) then put
your finger all the way in, past the prostate. With
your finger gently probing above the prostate proceed
You can also use a gadget (NOT a dildo) specially
designed for prostate-stimulation. But beware, the prostate
is a rather fragile organ, and prone to damage - and
you must learn to resist the temptation of impending
orgasm. You must relax and stop penile stimulation just
when your 'piss-stopper muscle' would naturally start
Learn to get closer and closer to ejaculatory inevitability
without passing that threshold.
Build up your level of sexual excitement first
with at least five stop and go sessions, then try to
get really close to an orgasm and relax
all sex-organ muscles. Get so close that you would have
triggered an orgasm if you had not become fully relaxed.
Your mission is continue to feel the orgasms approach
for a few seconds even though you are not stimulating
your penis. The lure to continue is very hard to resist.
resistance, try turning on a news channel or taking
out the rubbish, or combing your pubic hair...
point, if you fancy a taste of your own seminal fluid,
you can perform the actions described above.
Try to spend one night or longer with your sex organs
full and tingling.
In this way you can gain complete control of ejaculation.
When I finally
decide (after hours or days) to ejaculate, I spurt in long,
hard, hot, cosmogasmic gushes. Obviously, it is "beyond
words" and has to be experienced to be appreciated - but
'nut-and-mind-blowing' gets somewhere near. In fact the total,
holosensual experience of the sexual adept is one of the most
exalted and profound known. You will probably lie there for
a long time, feeling the wonderful, loving, wet warmth that
you can bathe your whole being in.
In this respect,
we can be wonderfully self-sufficient. (But should you find
a partner, a whole new universe - that of sensual mutuality
- will open up like a procession into Paradise.) Tantric/Daoist
eroticism creates and develops erotic intelligence and passion;
'ordinary sex' diminishes them.
Why do people
waste so much time, effort, money and emotional energy seeking
good sex with another person, when it is this good on your own.
But if you could find someone on the same wavelength, it would
be love of a very special and intense kind, a truly spiritual
love based on self- and mutual understanding of and integration
with the body. This is why religions condemn masturbation: not
just because it is a 'waste' of sperm (thought to contain 'soul')which
could be used to increase the numbers of our terrible species.
If people - male and female - could achieve the kind of ecstatic
self-understanding that I have described, who would bother to
wage war or go to work ? And so there would be no medical-military-industrial
complex to turn us into guilt-ridden or solipsistic robots.
"The Joy of Solo Sex" and
"The Multi-Orgasmic Man"
Body as Amusement-park : a History of Masturbation
This page is an edited conflation of articles
contained in the fascinating website
The information below comes
The word masturbation
derives from the Latin words manus, meaning hand, and
stupare, meaning to defile - originally mastupration.
The famous Catholic theologian Thomas Aquinas believed that
masturbation was a worse sin than rape, incest, and adultery
(because in these other sins procreation is a possibility).
Pope Leo IX forbade masturbators from being admitted to sacred
It was not until 1940 that a respected textbook, "Diseases
of Infancy and Childhood," removed its discussion of masturbation
from the chapter titled "Functional and Nervous Disorders."
Enthusiastically-varied Victorian anti-masturbation gadgetry
included satanic instruments of torture like
late-nineteenth century European fashion for the mutilation
known as circumcision
resulted from a belief that it would inhibit masturbation
by removing most of the sensitive nerve-ends located under the
Among some cultures,
such as the Hopi in Arizona, the Wogeno in Oceania, and the
Dahomeans and Namu of Africa, masturbation was often allowed
or encouraged, including mutual masturbation between males.
In certain Melanesian communities this was expected between
boys, and between boys and married men, though no other kind
of male-on-male sex was allowed.
In the Cubeo tribe of the Amazon, mutual masturbation was "semi-public."
Among the Tikopia of the South Pacific, men masturbated themselves
as other men watched.
Just for the record, porcupines masturbate by holding a stick
between their legs and rubbing their genitals against it...
5 reasons why you should masturbate.'
caught masturbating during "delay".'
"Masturbation is one of the greatest
joys of life. One of Nature's few free gifts." - Karl